Wednesday, October 31, 2007

Happy Halloween to All


Happy Bloggerversary to ME

Today is Halloween and I'm so glad because that means tomorrow my kids won't be begging to wear their costumes and I won't have to say "NO" so they won't rip, soil or lose part of them before the big night. We do Halloween the old fashioned way... we trick-or-treat. It seems recently so many "alternative" choices have appeared that it can be the most confusing holiday of the year. Trunk-or-teats, fall festivals, Reformation parties... yes costumes, no costumes, food, candy, games, rides... uggg!!! My kids love dressing up, grabbing their orange plastic pumpkin, and hitting the 'hood with their beloved cousins in search of lots of ooie, gooie candy. They don't care as much about the candy as seeing who can fill up their orange plastic pumpkin the most...(greedy kids sure make a mom proud.) And tonight when they're all tuckered out from the fun & excitement, I'll sneak and raid those orange plastic pumkins and make sure I get 1st choice of the tastiest treats!
Also, it was ONE year ago today that I made my first post to this blog. What was originally intended to be an information distribution vehicle for our adoption, has turned into my own online journal where I babble and vent and fume and opinionate to whomever is reading out there in cyberland. It's become quite the addiction. And though I could probably use my time better cleaning or decluttering or finishing projects, I have become quite fond of my (usually) daily writing. And if my @#$% camera wasn't still @#$% broken I could provide more personal photographs to accompany my musings. I'll work on that next week... after I come down from my Halloween candy high!
Be safe ya'll!

Tuesday, October 30, 2007

Position Available: PARENT
Job Description:
Long term, team players needed for challenging permanent work in an often chaotic environment. Candidate must possess excellent communication and organizational skills and be willing to work variable hours, which will include evenings and weekends and frequent 24 hour shifts. Job requires you to be on call 24/7/365. Some overnight travel required, including trips to primitive camping sites on rainy weekends and endless sports events in far away cities. Travel expenses will not be reimbursed. Extensive courier duties also required.
For the rest of your life you must be willing to be hated, at least temporarily, until someone needs $5.00 Must be willing to bite tongue repeatedly. Also, must possess the physical stamina of a pack mule and be able to go from 0 to 60 MPH in three seconds flat in case, this time, the screams from the backyard are not someone crying wolf. Must be willing to face stimulating technical challenges, such as small gadget repair, mysteriously sluggish toilets and stuck zippers. Must screen phone calls, maintain calendars and coordinate production of multiple homework projects. Must have ability to plan and organize social gatherings for clients of all ages and mental outlooks. Must be willing to be indispensable one minute, and an embarrassment the next. Must handle assembly and product safety testing of a half million cheap, plastic toys and battery operated devices. Must always hope for the best but be prepared for the worst. Must assume final, complete accountability for the quality of the end product. Responsibilities also include floor maintenance and janitorial work throughout the facility.
Possibility for Advancement & Promotion:
None. Your job is to remain in the same position for years, without complaining, constantly retraining and updating your skills, so that those in your charge can ultimately surpass you.
Previous Experience:
None required unfortunately. On-the-job training offered on a continually exhausting basis.
Wages and Compensation:
Get this... you pay them! Offering frequent raises and bonuses. A balloon payment is due when they turn 18 because the assumption that university will help them become financially independent. When you die, you give them whatever is left. The oddest thing about this reverse-salary scheme is that you actually enjoy it and wish you could on do more.
While no health or dental insurance, no pension, no tuition reimbursement, no paid holidays and no stock options are offered; the job supplies limitless opportunities for personal growth and free hugs and kisses for life... if you play your cards right.
Now... who's ready to sign-on???
From my dear & dearly missed friend Troy... like he said... if it had been presented this way, I'm not sure any of us would have done it! :)

Monday, October 29, 2007

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I Have Weird Kids
I don't know why, but just about every week one of my kids will wake up and throw up in the middle of the night. Sometimes they wake me up first feeling nauseated and sometimes I'm awaken by the noise of them throwing up and I run to help. Last night it was Baby #1. She threw up and then went back to bed and got up feeling just fine this morning. Last week it was Baby #3 and during our beach weekend last month it was Baby #2. When they do this they only throw up once. It's not like they have a stomach bug and we're up all night hovered around the toilet. I can't really pin point it to a particular food or eating too much or a medicine allergy. I think The Money Maker had stomach issues as a child. Yeah, I'll blame his bad genes for keeping my poor babies & I up once a week. Strange... very strange indeed.

Sunday, October 28, 2007

Cool Tool
I enjoy reading other bloggers' blogs. It's like this whole other world I've discovered... I'm just one of the millions of citizens that populate this online universe. I saw a blog recently and it had this neat baby ticker that was counting down the days until her 1st baby arrived. We'll we got a new baby coming to our family too. My littlest sister is expecting #2... and so I've installed the ticker here. Look to the right... you may need to scroll down a bit... and it so cool... not only does it count down the days for you... it gives you a look inside the uterus... showing you exactly what the baby looks like. How cool is that? The website is advertised at the bottom of the ticker and so you can go there and get one for your pregnant friend/sister/cousin/daughter and be cool too!

Wednesday, October 24, 2007

Lilly doesn't know it, but....
I started on her nursery yesterday! Where, o where, is my baby girl? After almost a three year wait I am finally getting ready to bring my baby home. Somewhere far away she is probably waking up about now. And here, very far away, is her nursery in it's infant stages. The room that hopefully, very soon, she'll wake up in every day. We have an ice blue ceiling that's done and the yellow walls have their first coat of paint. If my sand infested camera wasn't still broken, I would have real pictures for you. I'm going to work on that. And keep working on the room too... it's gonna be cute!

Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Frumping= Friend Dumping

I saw a segment on The Today Show yesterday giving tips on the best ways to end a friendship. They used the word "frumping" or friend dumping. I have long had my own deep thoughts on friendship and from what I saw on "Today" I'm not totally off base. Have you ever needed to frump someone? I love friends. I have had 5 major moves since I graduated from college where I was forced to find & make a whole new group of girlfriends. I'm sort of a wreck until I find a buddy. Not just a good friend... a BFF... a Mandy or a Colleen or a Robin or a Barbara... girlfriends that you just "click" with. I have often equated finding this perfect buddy to dating. When you date, you may meet lots of nice guys... sweet ones, funny ones, good-looking ones... but there's just something missing. You may date this person several times... even a couple months or a perhaps a year before you realize it's just not what you're looking for. So you break up. This break up doesn't mean he's a bad person... it doesn't mean you don't like him... you just don't want to date him... talk to him on the phone... hang out with him socially... be intimate. There's other fish in the sea... like the old saying, "you may have to kiss lots of frogs to find your prince." Well, to me, girlfriends are the just the same. As women, we are usually social creatures. We meet women all the time. Playgroups, Tupperware parties, church, our kids' schools, other soccer moms, friends of friends... other women are everywhere. Sometimes you feel obligated to "date" someone... maybe they're your neighbor or your husbands work together. So what do you do when you decide "this friendship just isn't working for me" or "I'm ready to move on... to find a BFF" or "you're nice, but I just don't like you that way." You must frump them... or dump this friend. It's hard, I know... I've done it before. And you have too. More than once. You may be frumping someone now. Have you ever been frumped? I have. I had this girlfriend once... we'll call her "Kat." She was fun... not a BFF... but fun and the best option I had at the time. Sometimes it can take a LONG time to find your "princess" of friends. Anyway, back to "Kat." She was a lot of fun but a bit on the wacko side... had a terrible, turbulent marriage... came from lots of $$$... pampered & spoiled. She was a very needy person. She got mad at me once that we didn't come to her daughter's birthday party 2 days after Baby #3 got out of ICU after I found him floating in our pool. Psycho! So we began to drift apart. I had made a new friend I liked more. She had just had twins after several miscarriages. We didn't speak for months at one point (I got pretty mad about her birthday party hissy fit.) Then her husband died. Tragic. Horrible. I felt sick. So I reached out to her again. Showed up at the funeral home not knowing if she'd hug me or hit me. But things went well and we rekindled our friendship a bit. But I didn't "give her enough"... she felt "betrayed"... and in one nasty email frumped me for good.... telling me not to write back to her. We never spoke again, and I have NO idea where she is now. Some break-ups can be hard. I've had boyfriends I never spoke to again. Heck, I didn't speak to The Money Maker for a year once during a break-up. Girlfriends are the same. They move on... you move on... you wish them the best and hope they find a friend they can be happy with. So the next time you find yourself needing to rid yourself of a particular friend, it's O.K. Relax. We don't have too be friends with everybody. You're not being mean... if fact you're doing them good. Releasing them to go out and find someone who can befriend them the way they deserve to be befriended. It may sting a little... it will proably be uncomfortable... and The Today Show gave lots of "tips" on how to frump. You can take the direct approach, like "Kat" did with me. You can take the "I'll just ignore you" approach... easier initally but then it drags the relationship on. You can rely on today's technology and send an email or text message on their cell phone. How you do it is up to you. Just be nice.

Sunday, October 21, 2007

Date Night
I had a hot date last night... with MYSELF! I found myself unexpectedly alone after The Money Maker went hunting with his brother and my kiddos were at their Aunt & Uncle We-Love-Ya'll-More-Than-Our-Own-Parents house. So I rented 3 movies and bought a roll of chocolate chip cookie dough. I invited my cat Weenie inside to be my cuddle bunny and we had a great time! I made great movie choices and here they are... if you're in the market for a good rental:
  1. "Knocked Up." A lot of repeats performances from the 40-Year-Old Virgin cast... very funny... and even made me shed a tiny tear at the end. I liked it. Too many f-bombs to watch with any children in the house.
  2. "The Holiday." Where has Jude Law been all my life? I've seen him in the tabloids & gossip magazines, but never paid much attention. He is deliciously dreamy and I'm a sucker for a British accent. My #1 guy, Edward Burns, is in this movie too... sadly just briefly... and Cameron Diaz, though she grates my nerves, gets better after a schitzo beginning.
  3. "The Painted Veil." I like movies a lot of people hate. Movies like "The English Patient," "Memoirs of a Geisha," "Shopgirl," "The End of the Affair" and "The Constant Gardner." The Money Maker enjoys movies like these about as much as "The Office," so this one could only be watched while alone. But I love 'em... movies with a big story... movies you almost have to watch 4 or 5 times to understand it... and movies that are usually downers. I think "The Painted Veil" won an award for one of the Top 10 downer movies once. And it is. It was great... but didn't give you the warm fuzzies at the end. But if you, like me, like movies most people hate... you'll, again like me, really like this one.

And then my date was interrupted by real life. I had to go pick up Baby #1 from her cousins' house due to illness, and bring her home and baby her and put her to bed.

Friday, October 19, 2007

Nothing but FUNNY!


You may find this post pathetic, but if you're not watching "The Office" on NBC at 9:00 on Thursday nights, you're missing out on some good fun. That show is the reason to get up on Thursday mornings. Steve Carell is genius. I laugh OUT LOUD each and every week. Now, there is not a lot of "grey" area with "The Office." You either adore it or think it's stupid. I adore it. My husband, shocker... thinks it's totally retarded. So, I watch and laugh alone and pity him for missing out on an hour of pure delight. Check out the scene ABOVE and decide for yourself. Now, if you decide you love it or if you already know you love it you may encounter another problem. "Grey's Anatomy" airs at the SAME TIME on ABC. And even though monologues by McDreamy like at the end last night talking to Meridith outside the elevator make me melt into the couch... he is too delicious... REMEMBER you can watch the show over & over again on I have tried watching shows on and it does NOT work as well as ABC... which is pretty flawless & much fewer commercials. So, take my advice... someone who loves funny... and tune into "The Office" next week... you'll be glad you did!

Thursday, October 18, 2007

I Dig It
This post has NOTHING to do with Lilly, or my family... just me blabbing to whoever is reading. I have a new obsession. The BABY DOLL TOP. It's hot right now. Shop anywhere from Neiman's to Wal-Mart and you'll find a wide variety of baby doll tops to choose from. I like to say it's "Maternity Chic"... 'cause it's really a maternity top. I am six years post-partum and am having a difficult time losing my baby belly. I'm sure it has something to do with the facts that I DON'T like to exercise and that I have an enormous sweet tooth and am busy enough that's it's easier and faster to grab a burger than fix a salad... and I have this phobia about restaurant lettuce and the preservatives they use to keep the lettuce fresh & green... but that's another post. Anyway, back to the baby belly. So, it's not totally obnoxious, but it's enough of a problem that I have contemplated a tummy tuck and don't wear my shirts tucked in. So the emergence of the baby doll top on this summer/fall's fashion scene is right up my poochy ally! I can't quit buying them. I'm sure people around town think I AM pregnant. It's not like I have 1 or 2... I now how close to 10... and I wear them ALL THE TIME. They're fabulous. No sucking in... no tight buttons... just easy, breezy comfort! So if you see me 'round town, I AM still adopting, I'm NOT pregnant... I'm just obsessed and fat-ish and lazy and need to get in shape. The end.

Wednesday, October 17, 2007

We've had better.
Well, we're back from Disney and even though the entire trip was not a total disaster... we've definitely had better trips. I will not bore you with a long, complete narrative of the weekend's events, I'll just give you the main bullet points.
  • Sat in traffic on I-75 just north of Gainsville and crawled between two different traffic accidents each involving tractor trailers, both involving fire and both involving fatalities. We traveled about 70 miles in 4 hours. It was excruciating.
  • Blew a tire on the camper 20 miles outside of Orlando
  • Tried to jam pack a week's worth of vacation in 3 days
  • Just barely 1/2 way home we blew a tire on The Money Maker's truck... another dangerous tire change on the edge of the interstate.
  • 100 miles later, The Money Maker hit a car with the camper in a gas station parking lot. He tried to settle man to man, extortion was attempted, then the police got involved but ended peacefully though still costing us a nice little chunk of $$$.
  • Blew ANOTHER STINKIN' (it would be so easy to use a nice juicy explitive instead of stinkin') tire on the camper after getting off the interstate. Some little bity tire store in some little bity south Georgia town was closing up shop for the day, about to drive away but was nice enough to fix our tire for us. That, my friends, is the beauty of living in the South... people do things like that around here!

I'm exhausted today. We got home late and then it was go! go! go! this a.m. getting the kiddos back to school, TMM to work & me to Bible study. I want to go to bed now! I'll post when I have more energy about Disney itself... it's a great place... even though the events that surrounded us this trip were awful. But we're home... we're safe... we're thankful!

Thursday, October 11, 2007

We didn't win the superbowl, but

We're going




My kiddos have 5 days off school for Fall Break, and so we're headed south to Disney World... yeehaw! We're taking our hotel-on-wheels (camper) and going to try the Fort Wilderness Campground on Disney's property. You get the perks of being a resort guest, but don't have to pay the pricey hotel rates. We'll see how it goes. And I'm super, SUPER bummed tonight 'cause something's wrong with my camera and I'm NOT happy. Going to have to play camera doctor on the car ride down tomorrow. I'm seeing bits of sand which is likely the result of our beach weekend last month. Don't remember dropping it in the sand... wonder if one of my three wee ones might know something about that??? Be back Tuesday... have a great weekend!

Tuesday, October 9, 2007

They got me!
I've been waiting on the pictures from my gorgeous friend Krystie to post about my most amazing SURPRISE last Thursday. My sister was in town from Ft. Lauderdale. My mom suggested we have "Girls Night Out" and just us 4 girls go out to dinner. My mom is taking chemotherapy and she was supposedly "craving" this certain restaurant in town and had "made" reservations for us to go. So I pick up Chic-fil-A for my kids that my Dad can feed them for dinner (of course, The Money Maker was out of town) and fly over to my mom's in time to meet she & my sisters in order to make our 7:30 reservation. What I didn't know was that inside were about 25 of my favorite people waiting with gifts & cards & cheesecake to shout "SURPRISE!!!" as I walked through the door. My sweet Mom & sisters. With all that they've got going on... they took time to pull a fast one over on me... I had NO CLUE... and it was really neat to celebrate Lilly!

Here's me rounding the corner. Notice the Chic-fil-A drink carrier in my hand. The gal in the colorful jacket is my funny & fabulous friend Kim who I had JUST had lunch with 6 hours before... she didn't slip up once. My mom said she was so nervous she avoided me all day and comended Kim for her bravery in spending an hour with me over lunch chatting & discussing the latest news in our lives. Notice my beautiful sister Nancy-Fance to the right... one of the co-conspirators... she pulled it off... I was TOTALLY shocked!

The big stork greeted me at the door. If you could see the baby sticking out of the bundle, she's Chinese... cute little almond eyes and black hair. If you'd like a stork to indroduce your newest bundle call The Stork Sisters. Notice how I actually LOOK pregnant. I've got to diet before I go to China. Anyway, my beautiful mother is on my left and my best friends/sisters to the right. It was a fun, fun night. We laughed and smiled the entire time. My face was in actual pain as the guests were leaving from smiling so long. The party even gave me extra "mojo" to continue to wait and wait with excitement... something that I've lost somewhere along the 3 year line.

Sunday, October 7, 2007

My New Best Friend
I am practically a single mom. I've decided to change my husband's webname to "The Money Maker"... 'cause that's what he does. He works a lot... travels a lot... and when he's home he's VERY "busy" with his laptop computer & cell phone... "working"... or keeping up with college & Fantasy football. It doesn't leave him a lot of time to give baths or read bedtime stories or fix lunches or help clean the kitchen. Can you tell I'm venting? And don't worry, The Money Maker doesn't read this website... it doesn't tell him anything about football or what's going on in the "real" world... it's blah, blah, blah to him.
So... back to the post. Since, I'm practically a single mom I'm swamped at night with kiddie duty... homework, baths, bedtime, giving medicine, picking out clothes... you moms know the drill. And my soon-to-be six year old son still likes for me to lay down with him to go to sleep and heck, I'm pooped by bedtime myself and enjoy laying down and going to sleep. That routine was fine during the summer when all my fave shows were on hiatus. But now that the new fall season is back in swing, I'm missing great T.V. while I'm snoozing away from exhaustion in my son's bottom bunk bed.
When we moved to this new house, The Money Maker got the "Bundle Package" from our local cable company (phone, internet & cable) and so I had to give up my beloved Dish Network which, along with service, provided free DVR... Digital Video Recording. Their version of Tivo. Gosh, I love Tivo. It's a mom/T.V. junkie's best friend. You record shows on your t.v. (no messy tapes to fool with) and you watch them back at your convenience... skipping the commercials... rewinding the best parts... pausing to get a snack... it was AWESOME!
And finally to the point of this post... which is also part public service announcement... thanks to the wonderful age of technology you can now watch FULL EPISODES of your favorite shows on your computer. It's genius. This past Friday night, the kids were glued to a Hannah Montana marathon on Disney Channel and I put my headphones in the computer speakers...went to and watched "Grey's Anatomy's" first 2 episodes back to back. It rocked! Then last night I watched the first two episodes of ABC's new show "Big Shots", starring the dreamy Michael Vartan and Dylan McDermott. Tonight I'm going to where you can do the same thing. I'm going to watch last Thursday's "The Office" and catch the season premire of "30 Rock." I'm a happier person now. Sad, I know. But after a busy day of busting up fights, feeding cats, making Hamburger Helper, driving carpool... a little bit of T.V. goes a long way to keeping this seemingly "single mom" sane!

Saturday, October 6, 2007

From Her



The Rumor Queen, God bless her, must do nothing but analyze data, run numbers and make life easier for the rest of us stuck in waiting misery. She came out with a new PROJECTION this week, and since I still get the "WHEN" question all the time, I thought I'd let the expert give you her best guess for WHEN we'll get to find out 'bout little Lilly. Remember... this chart refers to WHEN we will receive our REFERRAL... not WHEN we will travel to China to pick her up.

O.K... let's look at the chart. The months on the LEFT are the next 6 months when we expect to receive referrals. October's came in this week, and the CCAA has been doing a consistent job of getting them to the States the 1st week of the month. Then, across the top, you have Rumor Queen catagories... ranging from a horrid to a good case senarios. Unfortunately, we have been experiencing activity from the horrid to mid case senarios in 2007... usually hovering around BAD case. But the good news is with a log in date (LID) of JANUARY 5th... we're on the whole chart baby! Even with the HORRID happening... we still make the chart! As I predicted... with my limited information... we won't know anything by the end of this year. Unless God intervenes and there's a miracle beyond comprehension. Could happen??? Yes. We could also experience a White Christmas here in central Georgia.... could happen... most likely won't. So... let's say the CCAA really goes gang-busters... we could have our referral in January (probably travel in March.) If things stay status-quo and remain BAD case... we could get a referral in February... travel in April. I predict the above. We find out in February... possibly squeeze in in January... but most likely February. Wait & see!!!!

Thursday, October 4, 2007

Today I received the magic envelope in the mail from the US Department of Homeland Security. We've been approved... again... for the 3rd time... to bring a baby into the United States from China. Our approval date is officially September 27, 2007. That means that if we don't go to China by March 27, 2009 there will be no Lilly. I ain't going back for a 4th time! O.K... you're right... I probably would!

Tuesday, October 2, 2007


Here come the babies!

Right on time, October's babies have arrived here in the US. North American agencies began making phone calls this afternoon informing lucky families of their referrals. It's good news, to me, that the CCAA, after 6 long, dreadful, horrific months, has finally finished matching November 2005 families and are moving on to December 2005. When we get our referral depends on how long it will take them to finish up 2005. Reportedly, December is a good deal smaller that November, and hopefully will not take as long to complete. Anyway, click HERE to watch the new babies file in... and to see their referrals pics. & stats. CONGRATULATIONS to all the new parents! - Custom comment codes for MySpace, Hi5, Friendster and more

Monday, October 1, 2007

I'd be crying!

A fellow January LIDer had a meeting with her Agency last week. At this meeting, she & the other clients were informed, that (according to what this agency believes to be true) the CCAA has the goal of getting though January 2006, February 2006 and March 2006 in the year 2008. Three stinkin' months in one little bity year. Right now, they're accepting dossiers for Ocotober 2007 and they only hope to get through the first quarter of 2006 all of next year??? Do you know how depressed I'd be if I were a 2007 family? This wait is really going to stretch out to 4 years & beyond if that is true. No... I wouldn't be crying... I'd be switching.... switching to Special Needs. In my long 3 year wait, I have seen beautiful, wonderful, perfectly healthy children come from the Special Needs program and am almost kicking myself for not going that route. I feel we're so close now, I hate to jump ship and switch lanes... I'd just mess everything up. Plus, I'm continuing to hear rumors that some January families could already by matched. But I have to investigate a bit more before posting about that.